Some people who have tried swinging swear by it and say that it has kept their relationship and sex life going strong, others said it destroyed it.
So is swinging or an open relationship for you ?
Firstly what is the difference ?
Swinging:
When couples in a relationship, married or otherwise, agree to engage in, or allow intimate encounters with another person or couple sometimes as part of a threesome or foursome. Not all swingers allow full sex some just like same room fun, or touching and masturbation. But often it can and does include intercourse and full swapping of partners, either together, in a group, or in separate rooms. Swinging is not cheating and swingers have no reason to lie to each other. To be swingers you need to have a very close and understanding relationship. To be able to tell your partner everything and to have total trust in each other. You need have the ability to set aside jealousy and to be able to accept seeing your partner enjoying intimacy,
even orgasm with another person. Ladies could you really handle watching your guy enjoy getting pleasured from another woman maybe having sex and Cumming with her? Or Guys, when your woman meets a good looking guy would you be ok with her reaching orgasm while riding on His hard (and maybe bigger than yours) cock!
It may sound exciting to some, and it can be! But only if you are close enough to accept your other half as a person and be pleased to allow them to enjoy themselves and their sexuality as a natural human being should. If you cant think that way and are jealous or insecure in your relationship then swinging could be your worst nightmare!
Some types of swinging that people enjoy.
Same room sex (couples have sex with their own partners in the same room )
Soft swinging (some flirting, touching, kissing or masturbation may be allowed )
Full swinging ( Full sex between couples either in the same room or separately)
Group swinging (House parties that may include group sex between many couples)
Threesomes (single male or female to join in sometimes with Bi sexual reasons)
Foursomes ( Two couples get together and share each other in the same room)
Open relationships:
Having an open relationship probably requires even more trust in your partner. However it is still the choice for many couples in these modern times. In an open relationship one or both members of the couple are free to engage in intimacy and other relationships outside of the primary relationship. Sometimes this only goes so far as some couples make rules as to how far the other is allowed to go within the secondary relationship.
But do you trust your partner ?
Would they tell you if they had got carried away?
How would you know if they were telling the truth?
Would they like the other person more than you and maybe leave you for them?
If these type of questions enter your head then an open relationship is not for you !
If these type of questions enter your head then an open relationship is not for you!
An open relationship requires utmost faith in your partner, total honesty and trust. But there are thousands of couples swinging and in open relationships that really do work. Plenty of people do find a way to get the balance and variety they need to make life stay interesting while staying with the one they love, and giving their partner the opportunity to do the same.
Women and swinging:
It is one of the myths about swinging that most women are dragged into it by eager males wanting more sex. That is not strictly the truth! While it is true many women have been persuaded into it by their partners, it is also true that many times it is the Ladies who wish to continue the lifestyle rather than the guys. In fact it is women who are the real stars of swinging.
The lifestyle brings many more benefits than just sex to a relationship, it is a social way of life and the meeting of many people in a close intimate way, brings women much of the emotional and social needs that they crave with the added touch of some sexual excitement and liberated freedom.
Thinking about sex another way:
When it comes to liberating your sexual and emotional world there are many obstacles we face. The main one being when we don't comply with what is seen in our societies as normal, as soon as we step outside the "norm" we start to question ourselves and feel judgment from others. This has derived from the many years of social conditioning that we have endured. Conditioning and fears relating to the perception of our religions, governments and social pressures. It can be very hard to change what you have been taught and to live outside of the normal, to feel judged by the masses. But that is because if you live outside the normal, if you have a wild side or enjoy things a little differently, it means you are an individual! It means you are able to take life and make the most of it, it means you are interesting, sexual, spiritual, but above all it means you are not afraid to be you! Your sexuality and emotional stability is far better when you go with your feelings instead of your thoughts. Society has planted thoughts in our heads. Its about understanding that most of your thoughts and feelings about sex and relationships have been taught to you; they are not your OWN thoughts. Sometimes when people learn to take some of the rules out of what is normally expected in a relationship, they find it releases many of the pressures and stress relationships have. You are designed to be able to have sexual and emotional contact with more than one person, and one person can rarely provide all that you require for life your sexual and emotional needs.
Dont use it as a cure
Changing your relationship to include other people can, for many people provide, the extra sexual buzz and emotional fulfilment that they require, while still holding a strong loving primary relationship. However, if your relationship is not strong in the first place then i would not suggest it. You need to have full trust and faith in your lover before you allow other people into your love life. Work on getting your relationship stronger before you think about involving other people.
Any way its not that bad.
So many people are nervous about swinging, thoughts of ex with strangers is particularly a no no with the women. But actually when you meet people in this way you find that people are just people. You don't have to fuck just anyone you meet !
Meet nice people, other couples etc, go for drinks, chat and only when you feel good with someone you can maybe take it further. Slowly!! Why rush, its better to find people you want to sleep with! Most people worry too much, if you have an open mind enough to swing you will realize after the event that the nerves and restlessness were wasted. In fact it may be a bit of an anti climax. Well of course have you ever slept with anyone who was great first time? Let alone as part of a threesome or foursome.
Swingers tend to make close friends with a few couples and get to know each other better so that sex becomes far more intense and emotional. Rushing in to sex with strangers can also be exciting for some people too though.
Have consideration
Most experienced swingers will already know there is an few rules to swinging, the main one, having consideration for other people and your partner. If you engage in sexual activity with other people, it can be all to easy to get carried away. Remember these rules.
No means No ( if someone is not happy with doing something, or a situation )
Consider your partner (if your partner is present do not forget all about them)
Consider the feelings of all concerned.
Consenting adults enjoying sex and friendship together is nothing more than a natural thing that we have been doing for 100's of years. Swinging, gay sex and fetish were around long before you were.
Try some of the links opposite for more information on the swingers Lifestyle.
Open up your world and get the best from life with www.liberatedadult.co.uk
Also read understanding sexual liberation
Liberated Adult the leading website for the liberated adult in the Uk
(artical written by webmaster liberated adult 2006 do not duplicate )
So is swinging or an open relationship for you ?
Firstly what is the difference ?
Swinging:
When couples in a relationship, married or otherwise, agree to engage in, or allow intimate encounters with another person or couple sometimes as part of a threesome or foursome. Not all swingers allow full sex some just like same room fun, or touching and masturbation. But often it can and does include intercourse and full swapping of partners, either together, in a group, or in separate rooms. Swinging is not cheating and swingers have no reason to lie to each other. To be swingers you need to have a very close and understanding relationship. To be able to tell your partner everything and to have total trust in each other. You need have the ability to set aside jealousy and to be able to accept seeing your partner enjoying intimacy,
even orgasm with another person. Ladies could you really handle watching your guy enjoy getting pleasured from another woman maybe having sex and Cumming with her? Or Guys, when your woman meets a good looking guy would you be ok with her reaching orgasm while riding on His hard (and maybe bigger than yours) cock!
It may sound exciting to some, and it can be! But only if you are close enough to accept your other half as a person and be pleased to allow them to enjoy themselves and their sexuality as a natural human being should. If you cant think that way and are jealous or insecure in your relationship then swinging could be your worst nightmare!
Some types of swinging that people enjoy.
Same room sex (couples have sex with their own partners in the same room )
Soft swinging (some flirting, touching, kissing or masturbation may be allowed )
Full swinging ( Full sex between couples either in the same room or separately)
Group swinging (House parties that may include group sex between many couples)
Threesomes (single male or female to join in sometimes with Bi sexual reasons)
Foursomes ( Two couples get together and share each other in the same room)
Open relationships:
Having an open relationship probably requires even more trust in your partner. However it is still the choice for many couples in these modern times. In an open relationship one or both members of the couple are free to engage in intimacy and other relationships outside of the primary relationship. Sometimes this only goes so far as some couples make rules as to how far the other is allowed to go within the secondary relationship.
But do you trust your partner ?
Would they tell you if they had got carried away?
How would you know if they were telling the truth?
Would they like the other person more than you and maybe leave you for them?
If these type of questions enter your head then an open relationship is not for you !
If these type of questions enter your head then an open relationship is not for you!
An open relationship requires utmost faith in your partner, total honesty and trust. But there are thousands of couples swinging and in open relationships that really do work. Plenty of people do find a way to get the balance and variety they need to make life stay interesting while staying with the one they love, and giving their partner the opportunity to do the same.
Women and swinging:
It is one of the myths about swinging that most women are dragged into it by eager males wanting more sex. That is not strictly the truth! While it is true many women have been persuaded into it by their partners, it is also true that many times it is the Ladies who wish to continue the lifestyle rather than the guys. In fact it is women who are the real stars of swinging.
The lifestyle brings many more benefits than just sex to a relationship, it is a social way of life and the meeting of many people in a close intimate way, brings women much of the emotional and social needs that they crave with the added touch of some sexual excitement and liberated freedom.
Thinking about sex another way:
When it comes to liberating your sexual and emotional world there are many obstacles we face. The main one being when we don't comply with what is seen in our societies as normal, as soon as we step outside the "norm" we start to question ourselves and feel judgment from others. This has derived from the many years of social conditioning that we have endured. Conditioning and fears relating to the perception of our religions, governments and social pressures. It can be very hard to change what you have been taught and to live outside of the normal, to feel judged by the masses. But that is because if you live outside the normal, if you have a wild side or enjoy things a little differently, it means you are an individual! It means you are able to take life and make the most of it, it means you are interesting, sexual, spiritual, but above all it means you are not afraid to be you! Your sexuality and emotional stability is far better when you go with your feelings instead of your thoughts. Society has planted thoughts in our heads. Its about understanding that most of your thoughts and feelings about sex and relationships have been taught to you; they are not your OWN thoughts. Sometimes when people learn to take some of the rules out of what is normally expected in a relationship, they find it releases many of the pressures and stress relationships have. You are designed to be able to have sexual and emotional contact with more than one person, and one person can rarely provide all that you require for life your sexual and emotional needs.
Dont use it as a cure
Changing your relationship to include other people can, for many people provide, the extra sexual buzz and emotional fulfilment that they require, while still holding a strong loving primary relationship. However, if your relationship is not strong in the first place then i would not suggest it. You need to have full trust and faith in your lover before you allow other people into your love life. Work on getting your relationship stronger before you think about involving other people.
Any way its not that bad.
So many people are nervous about swinging, thoughts of ex with strangers is particularly a no no with the women. But actually when you meet people in this way you find that people are just people. You don't have to fuck just anyone you meet !
Meet nice people, other couples etc, go for drinks, chat and only when you feel good with someone you can maybe take it further. Slowly!! Why rush, its better to find people you want to sleep with! Most people worry too much, if you have an open mind enough to swing you will realize after the event that the nerves and restlessness were wasted. In fact it may be a bit of an anti climax. Well of course have you ever slept with anyone who was great first time? Let alone as part of a threesome or foursome.
Swingers tend to make close friends with a few couples and get to know each other better so that sex becomes far more intense and emotional. Rushing in to sex with strangers can also be exciting for some people too though.
Have consideration
Most experienced swingers will already know there is an few rules to swinging, the main one, having consideration for other people and your partner. If you engage in sexual activity with other people, it can be all to easy to get carried away. Remember these rules.
No means No ( if someone is not happy with doing something, or a situation )
Consider your partner (if your partner is present do not forget all about them)
Consider the feelings of all concerned.
Consenting adults enjoying sex and friendship together is nothing more than a natural thing that we have been doing for 100's of years. Swinging, gay sex and fetish were around long before you were.
Try some of the links opposite for more information on the swingers Lifestyle.
Open up your world and get the best from life with www.liberatedadult.co.uk
Also read understanding sexual liberation
Liberated Adult the leading website for the liberated adult in the Uk
(artical written by webmaster liberated adult 2006 do not duplicate )
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