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Bi sexuality is sometimes frowned upon by both the Hetro and Gay community, some people consider that you are either gay or straight and many even consider Homosexuality to be an abnormality of the mind and not a natural state. This show's you how small minded we have become, in fact a very high percentage of people are Bisexual, both women and men.
We consider Bisexuality to be considerably "Normal" and just another example of human diversity, maybe it is time we started to realize that sex, love and relationships hold no bound's. What naturally attracts us is a bond between people, both physical and emotional, more than the sex of the individual.
Indeed many people have had bisexual experiences at some point in life, even if they never felt "that way inclined" before, attraction can come in many forms regardless of sex. Bisexuality is very often kept secret, it's social implications many would rather steer clear of, many bisexual men are instantly branded Gay the moment the truth is split, although bisexuality in women is treated a little less harsh.
Most of us play the Social game to some extent and many of us cannot handle the Judgment and stereotyping that society lays before us, this is a same as it often prevents the individual for expressing themselves freely. It can also lead to lies and deception as that person takes there chosen paths in an "underground fashion", keeping secrets from loved one's, friends and society as a whole. Many Bisexual men and some women, are considered to be living double lives, many married and having "secret affairs" to satisfy their needs. They would fear both the implications of deceiving a monogamous relationship and of revelling their true dual sexuality, understanding does not come easy to many.
Coming Out as Bi or Gay:
As Liberated adult ourselves, like many of our users, we understand that most people fear social rejection and judgment, we all care too much about what people "might think" and that in it's self prevents us from "fully revelling" ourselves. Many swinging couples hide the truth to most people in fear of that same social rejection. In truth the consequences of "telling the truth" are usually far less challenging than we first think. It is almost always the same for gay and bisexual people "coming out", however difficulties often arise as a result of them having "set up" a straight or monogamous relationship and then having to admit they deceived to cover up the truth.
A friend of ours recently came out as gay, he is 45 and has known he is gay all his life, he was not in a relationship, so i guess that made is easier, but he had been terrified all his life of the "Truth" getting out. Due to the length of time he had pretended to be straight, for most people, news of his true sexuality came as more of a shock than anything else. All but the very few accepted him just the same after the announcement and it made very little change in his life. He wished that he had done this long ago and lived his life as a proud gay man. The few people that had difficulty, we decided, were just ignorant loosers anyway, they had no real effect on his life before and even less now !
A swinging couple we know also decided to stop the "cover up" and now announce quite readily about there enjoyment of others joining in. It quickly got around our community and the places they would frequent, some people giggled about it in a nervous way, others said they wished they could be like that and little old ladies sat in the corner saying "how terrible".
However they did not loose all their friends, nor get treated with disrespect and after time other couples were sparking more interest in them, they have had more swinging offers than ever before! They found that is never changed their life, it only bettered it !
The truth is "Coming out" whether as gay, bi, swingers, etc., is telling the truth, being honest about the real you and the way you think and feel. The truth is often hidden and in hiding the truth we are deceiving people, deception can cloud who we really are. "Coming out" is not (for many people) as bad as they thought is would be, in fact the new honesty in themselves attracts more people of a like-mind and new found friends, lovers and a peace of mind. The truth is always a far better way !!
We consider Bisexuality to be considerably "Normal" and just another example of human diversity, maybe it is time we started to realize that sex, love and relationships hold no bound's. What naturally attracts us is a bond between people, both physical and emotional, more than the sex of the individual.
Indeed many people have had bisexual experiences at some point in life, even if they never felt "that way inclined" before, attraction can come in many forms regardless of sex. Bisexuality is very often kept secret, it's social implications many would rather steer clear of, many bisexual men are instantly branded Gay the moment the truth is split, although bisexuality in women is treated a little less harsh.
Most of us play the Social game to some extent and many of us cannot handle the Judgment and stereotyping that society lays before us, this is a same as it often prevents the individual for expressing themselves freely. It can also lead to lies and deception as that person takes there chosen paths in an "underground fashion", keeping secrets from loved one's, friends and society as a whole. Many Bisexual men and some women, are considered to be living double lives, many married and having "secret affairs" to satisfy their needs. They would fear both the implications of deceiving a monogamous relationship and of revelling their true dual sexuality, understanding does not come easy to many.
Coming Out as Bi or Gay:
As Liberated adult ourselves, like many of our users, we understand that most people fear social rejection and judgment, we all care too much about what people "might think" and that in it's self prevents us from "fully revelling" ourselves. Many swinging couples hide the truth to most people in fear of that same social rejection. In truth the consequences of "telling the truth" are usually far less challenging than we first think. It is almost always the same for gay and bisexual people "coming out", however difficulties often arise as a result of them having "set up" a straight or monogamous relationship and then having to admit they deceived to cover up the truth.
A friend of ours recently came out as gay, he is 45 and has known he is gay all his life, he was not in a relationship, so i guess that made is easier, but he had been terrified all his life of the "Truth" getting out. Due to the length of time he had pretended to be straight, for most people, news of his true sexuality came as more of a shock than anything else. All but the very few accepted him just the same after the announcement and it made very little change in his life. He wished that he had done this long ago and lived his life as a proud gay man. The few people that had difficulty, we decided, were just ignorant loosers anyway, they had no real effect on his life before and even less now !
A swinging couple we know also decided to stop the "cover up" and now announce quite readily about there enjoyment of others joining in. It quickly got around our community and the places they would frequent, some people giggled about it in a nervous way, others said they wished they could be like that and little old ladies sat in the corner saying "how terrible".
However they did not loose all their friends, nor get treated with disrespect and after time other couples were sparking more interest in them, they have had more swinging offers than ever before! They found that is never changed their life, it only bettered it !
The truth is "Coming out" whether as gay, bi, swingers, etc., is telling the truth, being honest about the real you and the way you think and feel. The truth is often hidden and in hiding the truth we are deceiving people, deception can cloud who we really are. "Coming out" is not (for many people) as bad as they thought is would be, in fact the new honesty in themselves attracts more people of a like-mind and new found friends, lovers and a peace of mind. The truth is always a far better way !!
